Okay, so transitioning Caroline out of our bed and into the pack and play in her shared room with Ian went really well for about 2 nights. And then it was a disaster. She has never been an "easy" baby, so I don't know why I thought this would be easy!
She would cry, it would wake Ian up. Or she would be asleep and then we would put Ian to bed about an hour later and she would wake up and scream, which would leave me mad at Ian for waking her up (and we all know that is fair, right? To be mad at a 2 1/2 year old for waking up a baby? Yeah.)
So at first we would swoop Ian up out of his crib and put him in a pack and play in our room so that C could fuss without disturbing him. But he wasn't really sleeping that great in the pack and play in our room, and I think he might have even felt a little displaced...which in reality, he was! So during the day he was starting to act out. Sitting in time out, oh 6,000 times a day. Ian is strong-willed as it is, so time out 6,000 times a day didn't do much for him.
I was frustrated...overall....with everything.
We hadn't really fixed any problems.....we just traded one kid out of our room for another kid in our room.
And things were going down hill fast. I was beyond frustrated. I was frustrated in the daytime with all the acting out. I was frustrated in the nighttime with all the crying and settling, and resettling. I thought I had all the answers for getting C to sleep since I had read the internet up and down.
It turns out, I didn't have any answers.
The other night, when the baby was screaming, and Ian was displaced and not sleeping, I started screaming...at my husband.
For doing exactly what I had told him to do.
Because what I told him to do wasn't working....my plan wasn't working....and I wanted to blame somebody.....anybody.
I am still so ashamed of how I acted. I just cannot even believe it was me. Of course I apologized and (thankfully!) he forgave me immediately. But it was awful and I knew something had to change.
What we were doing was clearly not working. It was breaking our family.
So we made the decision to move Ian back into his own room and bring C back into our room in a pack and play. And it has already been much better as far as Ian's behavior is concerned.
But the problem with C remains this: She screams for an hour or more (usually just 1 hour) around bedtime.
Here is what happens:
5:30ish C eats dinner (babyfood dinner, not just breastmilk).
6:00pm C has a bath- she LOVES bathtime
6:15ish New diaper, get into pajamas, nurse
6:30pm-ish Put her down in the pack and play, with the fan on for noise, usually sleepy but awake; sometimes asleep from nursing.
7:15-7:30pm Somewhere between 45 minutes to an hour later, C wakes up and starts screaming.
For the next hour at least, we go in every 10 minutes to comfort her. But she is hysterical....I basically pick her up and she calms down and sometimes instantly falls asleep, and then I put her back down and she might stay asleep for a minute or two, but then wakes up screaming.
This is every night. I don't know how to get her past the "1 hour past bedtime screamfest".
After she finally settles down (usually after an hour of this screaming routine), she is asleep for another 3-4 hours, waking around 11:30pm to nurse and then wakes around 4am to nurse, and after nursing goes right back to sleep beautifully....and then she wakes up around 7:30am. I'm totally okay with the 2 nursings throughout the night....but the screaming isn't about wanting to nurse....I just don't get it.
I don't know what to do. She's got a routine, she usually goes down just fine....how do I get her to make it past that daily nighttime scream?
I need help! Right now I feel like we're in baby sleep hell. It's at least better since Ian is getting sleep again, and I know it won't be this way forever...it is a limited amount of time....just like her colic/purple period was.
Did I mention she is 6 months old today??